If you have, then you’re certainly not alone. But if you haven’t, you might well be pondering it now…
The question of identity is one that is asked often, and there is a belief that people who ask it are typically struggling with their identity. That these ‘souls’ are in fact a bit lost and seeking a definitive answer to – quite literally – help them to define themselves. But you don’t have to be struggling with your identity to ask it either.
There’s no definitive ‘identity’
You could well be a mother, brother, sister, nephew, doctor, writer, friend or a combination of the above, and more. The truth is, if you’re a mother it’s because you have a son or daughter, and you’re a doctor because that’s the profession you choose to practice. These ‘identities’ are all true, but they are just a part of who we are that are dependent on something else.
Who we are is a combination of our bodies, minds, memories, values, souls and much more. In fact, I would argue that our identity – who we are – should be seen as an evolving process rather than something that is defined – or static.
We’re human beings after all, and therefore growing and changing all the time. As we evolve our experiences, actions and reactions, perceptions and priorities change. We re-think, re-organize, reprioritize and reconsider who we are.
More than One Person?
Most of us are quite complex. We can be different people in different situations. Children can tell lies in one situation, but be honest in another. This sometimes leaves us struggling with who we really are.
It seems to be part of the journey of life to work at integrating these different strands in our personality. If it goes well we start to feel that we hold together better, and other people trust us more.
The concept of ‘Who am I?’ is a constant evolution
It makes absolute sense to want to seek a deeper sense of self, becoming intimately aware of how you think, feel and your hopes and fears. The key to answering ‘Who am I?’ is to see your potential.
We are part of a universe that is evolving every second of every minute, of every day, and asking ‘Who am I?’ on one day could result in a very different answer on another. By committing to our personal evolution – keeping the parts of our ‘identity’ that work well and losing anything that constrains us – we can try to understand who we are today.